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WITH-ness: Marriage UNDER

Tennison & Ginelle Barry Season 4 Episode 3

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WITH-ness: The experience of being deeply connected with God and others through joy, presence, mutual delight, trust, safety, and shared life. A relational environment where people become more fully alive because they are deeply known, genuinely loved, and continually invited to grow. ~ Table & Well

Big Question:
What happens when our longing for security turns into a need to control the relationship through performance?

Every spouse longs to know, "Are we okay? Am I safe here? Will you still be here?"That longing for security is good. We were created for secure attachment, for relationships in which we can rest, trust, grow, and know we belong.But when that security feels threatened, fear begins looking for a way to guarantee the outcome.

In the UNDER posture, the strategy becomes performance:

"If I do everything right, our marriage will be okay."

Instead of receiving security through attachment, we try to earn it through our behavior. And slowly, marriage moves from joy to fear, from relationship to rules, and from intimacy to performance.

Join Tennison & Ginelle as they begin to unpack living Under, this unhealthy relational strategy, in our marriage. 

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